It honestly saddens me when I hear a couple that has been married 5, 10, 15+ years and have never been on a getaway with their spouse kid-free.
It’s so easy for us to go day in and day out with no getaway time with our spouse. Many excuses can arise:
- Well, we don’t have any money for my husband and I to getaway. You make it a priority to spend money on your kid’s sports events, social events, going out to eat, etc., right? Why? Because you know the fruit that can come out of your child being involved in a sport. Or, you just simply give in to what you really want in that moment.
- Who would watch our children? Let’s say, in an emergency situation, you need to be with your husband in the hospital for several days, you would make it a priority to find a sitter for those few days, right? Take advantage of your mom or mother-in-law, or simply swap babysitting with a trusting friend where you each take a getaway with your husband while the other watches your children.
- We just don’t have the time to do a getaway with each other. If you allow circumstances and people to control your lives, nothing will change, and yes, you will never have time to get away with each other. However, if you step up and take ownership of the events that go on in your life, plus see the importance of getting away with him, you can make it happen!
- It’s not really needed… we are doing just fine with our marriage. I’m going to be straight up with you… this is a lie! If every day you are consumed by work, your children, kids & church events, housework, and not making time for each other… slowly something is happening in your marriage… it’s either going uphill or downhill.
As my husband would say, “face those excuses in the face and push them out of the way.”
Read the rest of the post where I guest posted over at Hope & Joy in Christ –} You Need to Getaway & Reclaim Joy in a Christian Marriage.
Hubby started asking to getaway together very early after our kids were born. It is just so important to have that time just the 2 of us to reconnect!
Yes, Amen, Tiffany!
I enjoyed reading this! You’ve done a fine job of breaking down the excuses people use to avoid getting away with their spouse. Lots of great reframes and perspective-shifting! You’re right, your marriage is going in one direction: either uphill or downhill. Thanks for the great read.
Your welcome, Laura! Thanks for stopping by!