Yes, I am pregnant again!
Guilt
I’m starting to not feel guilty sharing with everyone that yes, I’m pregnant again! I want to be just as excited sharing this news as I was sharing it when I was pregnant with my first.
I believe the hesitation or guilt comes from the reaction I receive from sharing the news with people. Most of our family and friends rejoice with us. However, we do encounter some resistance or not many words spoken after we share it. I’m learning to not let that bother me. I want to be confident in the decisions my husband and I make for our family.
The hardest for me is sharing it with those who have been trying for a while and cannot get pregnant. It seriously makes me sick in the stomach telling them that again I’m expecting. I’ve known people in the past who had anger towards me when I’d tell them the big news. I didn’t even want to tell them, but knew they’d be even more angry at me if I didn’t share it with them personally and weren’t one of the first to know. To those people… I’m sorry. Really, this is the hardest for me.
We Are Crazy
Most people think we are absolutely crazy. In which, yes, they are very accurate on that. We are not normal and definitely live a crazy lifestyle compared to the culture around us. As of now, my husband and I have the same heart in that we do not want to prevent any of our children from being created. So, yes, if God wills it, an even larger family will come over time.
The Lord is really showing us what an absolute incredible blessing children are. How these creatures are the only things we can take into heaven with us, not our jobs, money, social status, perfect house, nothing. We are filling our quiver full. As many people will say, “You’ve got your hands full,” and very true… my hands are full of LIFE!
I have seen how these children have been used to mold and shape my life more in the last six years than my 30 years of life all together. They are the iron in my life.
Now that our children are getting a little older and grasping the concept of a baby growing in my stomach and that they will someday get to hold… it’s PRICELESS. They are so overjoyed and excited to have another sibling. This again, is another thing that blesses me as a mother- seeing how my children grasp the value of life.
Lastly, I want to conclude with this story because this really stuck out to me:
A few months ago I watched a wedding video that was put up on Facebook. In the video, someone was talking on the mic to the married couple. This person said something about the couple having 9 children. Immediately after that was said, the crowd cheered and went wild- as if encouraging the couple to do so. This really caught my attention. Because I see that in the reality of it all… I don’t think this couple would be getting the exact same response from all those people if the time came of them actually announcing their 9th pregnancy.
Isn’t that true?
People keep asking us how many children we will have, and again, unlike our culture, we have no idea! Only time will tell. As for now- me, my husband, and children rejoice in the fact that there is another life inside my womb. Thanks for those who are supportive and rejoicing with us.
Update: I created a post now with our 6th pregnancy. In this post I go into depth the #1 thing our culture lacks with the issue of children and how many we should have. Click here to read it.
Hi Denise, I am so happy for you. God has a purpose for each of us and for each child we bear. The bible says that our steps are ordered by the Lord and He directs our paths. You should not worry about what people say, worry only about what God says. Wishing you the very best for you, the little one you are carrying and your entire family.
Thanks, Sussy. You’re always an encouragement!
Wonderful news, I just had my 2nd. Praying you have such a blessed pregnancy. I made a printable over on my blog to pray over myself when I was pregnant.
Dearst Denise Renae,
I stumbled upon your blog and loved it. I am the extremely blessed mother of 6 gifts from God with 1 additional awaiting us in heaven. I too “grew up” when I had children-I sort of went into the whole deal kicking and screaming; hilariously enough I also became an empty nester and gave God the same sort of tantrum…but oh how my heart had expanded and been transformed by sharing in the daily lives of those amazing people!! I recall one humorous incident when we went for our daily walk, which consisted of usually several additional children besides my own, 2 dogs, and a red wagon filled with little ones who couldn’t yet walk. A woman was driving by and stopped to ask directions. My 4th daughter was too excited to hold back and burst out, “GUESS WHAT? My Mum’s going to have a BABY!!” The woman looked horrified and sped away because I had 7 children with me at the time. We laughed and laughed about that.
I am currently working as a nurse in Abu Dhabi to help my youngest daughter get through college and then physical therapy school. My husband went to be with the Lord 10 years ago leaving me to raise the last 5 children by myself…and yet I’m never alone. God has been so good. I have a blog posted for my experiences here in UAE at:
http://www.rovingakroes.com
I’m so happy for you and proud of you for going with God in your life and raising your children. My kids are AMAZING and transforming their communities. All that love and life and adventure you pour into them, they will pour into others and it will be like a river of God that floods the nations!! Be encouraged.
Also over here in UAE, People know how blessed I am and rejoice that I had a large family–but it’s only large by US standards because here women have 10-13 children, the older generation anyway. Children are a blessing from the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a REWARD. You are blessed!!
Wow, Linda, thanks so much for the encouragement. That story of you giving directions to that lady made me chuckle 🙂 I’m inspired by you, hearing how you raise those children on your own. I’m sure you’re an inspiration to many, many more! I like what you said in that “our children will be like a river of God that floods the nations!” Thanks again for all the encouragement. Blessings to you in your continued journey of motherhood.
I rejoice with you! I admit the subject of birth control is complicated in my mind. We talk about trusting God with our lives, but refuse to trust in in this area. Do we believe that every baby that God creates is an unmitigated blessing? Do we question His judgment?
On the other hand I did not live this out in my own life. It was too late when I finally realized the truth.
I do not want to judge any decision couples make about using birth control or sterilization, especially if they prayed and did their best to hear the will of the Lord. But I encourage couples not to decide on the basis of what they think they can afford or what they think they can handle. God can provide the resources, both in material things and in emotional, mental, or spiritual resources.
Wow, Karen, you said it very well. What you said is definitely what burns in my heart. And like you said, I don’t want to be judgmental. So I tell others this is what’s on our hearts and so this is what we are deciding to do. Thanks for sharing your perspective on this!
So excited for you! Your post is so ‘right on’ ! Congratulations!
Thanks, Bonni! You have always been an inspiration and example for me!
Love this.
Thanks, Jenny 🙂
So excited for you!!! I love knowing that God has a distinctive purpose and plan for each of our children, whether it’s our very first or our 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc. Each is a gift from Him. And I’m right there with you in that sharing the news with those who have struggled with infertility is absolutely the hardest. Thankfully, those around me have always been gracious and excited for us, which makes is easier. Looking forward to all that God has for us both in the coming months! 🙂
Thanks for the encouragement, Kishona. Yes, a distinctive plan for each of them! We are blessed & our children are blessed.
Such a cute photo of the excited siblings awaiting another friend and playmate! It is so neat that the older ones are able to realize what it means when you tell them you are having a baby.
Yes, and each year should get more and more fun for us to share and talk about it!